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Thursday, January 03, 2008

Tots ...

saw a msn nick "If that is what u wan, it is acceptable for me"

wonder, how do we define our wants??? wat about our needs?

Maslow hierarchy is what we were taught, but apparently, tings seems to change.

external and internal influences seems to blur the line of needs and wants.

let alone self.

as we grow, we climb up that hierarchy, in the process, life experiences, ppl's experiences, expectations from ppl and self, mould our tinking and beliefs.

that gives us our own unique identity, no one on earth is the same, which is why our fingerprints are unique.

and becoz of external influences, ppl group-think, which makes them forget that they are born unique. social norms, cultural differences hold a important factor that affects the moulding of self.

how do u define acceptable? acceptable by social norms? acceptable by culture? acceptable by others? from time to time, we rely our judgment, decisions, even our personality on the words of others.

to step out from the group seems that u are turning ur back to everyone, seems like you are the delinquents, you are the rebel, you are a failure. that is the unspoken law of society.

but at the end of the day, each of us is unique, each of us has our own path to go, why conform to the norms if it is not u at all?

u dun do tings for the sake of others, u do tings for the sake of urself. u dun hav to answer to ten thousand ppl, u just have to answer to urself.

unfortunately, even i myself had not reach that stage of enlightenment, but i am learnin everyday, i had taken a step out, i had my back turned, i had been labelled as rebel, but deep down, i am proud of myself to be able to hav the courage to step out that step.

of coz i am not encouraging you all to start killing everyone u hate, or setting fire. but to find ur inner self. those who dun understand u, will get hurt, get pissed, even hate u. but why waste ur time on someone like that? u are worth all the decisions u made, u are unique.

dun conform urself to do sth or even accept sth if it conflicts with ur inner self. at the end of the journey, onli regrets will be there. there wun be tears of happiness, sense of achievement, and most importantly, the highest of the hierarchy, self-esteem.

in the new yr, tink abt this, it will not happen overnight, but take that small step towards it. as there is a saying "a single step is half way to success" it has its meaning behind it.

search deep into ur hrt, not digging ur own grave. there will be frenzs and family supporting u, as those are the ppl that understand and respect ur decisions. they will see it as a growth for u and nth else.

many times in life, we make hasty decisions, it lead to short term achievements, yet in the long run, when we look back, we regret. lifes is a journey, a lesson. be patience and tings will be much brighter den it seems.

burdens that we put on ourselves, sometimes are not meant to be ours. learn to let it go. u will find that tings arent that complicated. tear away all those layers of influences, u will see the route better.

what is meant to be is meant to be, as long as you have given it ur best, there will be no regrets.

therefore, i decided my 2008 new yr resolution are

- no matter what obstacles i meet, i will give it my best.
- be patience
- to move towards self-contentment
- to understand frenz arnd me closer
- to hold on to my promises
- to be worthy of all the frenzship that i have
- to be myself
- to tone down my temper
- to have different perspectives

peeps, what is urs?


Considered for a second about our love at {1/03/2008 12:03:00 AM}
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